Effective communication between a family and a nanny is key to building a harmonious relationship, and preventing tension, misunderstandings, or miscommunication. Children can quickly pick up on any discord, and you do not want to create an environment that is uncomfortable for them. Below are some tips to improve communication:
- Establish Channels for Open Communication: This might mean scheduling regular check-ins (every 1-3 months) or meetings with parents to discuss their child’s progress, any concerns, or just to touch base. Having a recurring time set aside for open dialogue helps build trust. We also recommend having an “open door” policy where you make it clear to parents that they are welcome to observe, ask questions, or sit down for a chat anytime. Be sure to model open body language, a warm tone of voice, and be approachable rather than distant or defensive when communicating.
- Clarify Expectations: We recommend agreeing to clear expectations regarding childcare responsibilities, schedules, and expectations. The employment agreement should be a great place for this, and it should be updated every year to ensure there is no misunderstanding of your childcare responsibilities or the family’s expectations. As children get older, your responsibilities may shift from childcare-related to managing the household. Before the transition occurs, have a discussion with the parents to make sure you understand their expectations and your responsibilities in order to prevent misunderstandings.
- Approach Conflicts with Intentionality: Inevitably, as with any relationship, issues are bound to come up. It’s important to not let issues brew, so make sure to have an open discussion about it right away in order to keep little things from becoming bigger problems down the road. Use “I” statements to explain how you feel without blaming. For example, “I felt frustrated when the schedule changed without any notice”. Suggest compromises or alternate solutions. Ask “What if we tried…” and get their input too. When addressing conflicts, remain centered on the core issues at hand and present your perspective respectfully, without sidetracking the discussion. Listen actively to understand the family’s perspective. Ask questions to clarify their viewpoint before responding. If emotions are running high, take a break and return to the discussion when calmer. This will allow both the nanny and parents to pause and reflect. Remember, the goal is to find a common ground so both of your can come to an agreement, and the relationship can grow stronger.
- Respecting Boundaries and Differences: When parents see that their boundaries and preferences are being respected, they are more likely to trust their nanny, leading to a healthy and productive relationship. Parenting styles often reflect cultural values and traditions, so treat them with sensitivity. Focus on shared interests, for example, providing an excellent care environment for the child(ren). This common ground can help you reconcile differences.
- Seeking Support and Mediation: If conflict persists, a third party such as a nanny agency (Hello!✋ We’re here to help!) can provide an unbiased perspective. This helps both sides see the issue more clearly and objectively to find a fair resolution.
These strategies not only reduce tension and misunderstandings but also ensure that children are raised in a positive and supportive atmosphere. Remember, fostering open communication and mutual respect will not only enhance your relationship with your employer, but will also provide the best possible care for the children.
If challenges arise, please don’t hesitate to schedule a call with our Staffing Specialists / Former Career Nannies Melanie and Elena for advice on how to navigate these conversations with parents.